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The first meeting of Body Positive Staffordshire was a great success. A tasty buffet prepared by Robert Till was enjoyed by all. There was a good atmosphere and, having elected a leader for the meeting the group decided on a mission statement which is the same as the one for Positive Lives: The voice of people living with HIV in Staffordshire. It was clear from the discussions which took place over the following couple of hours that one of the main objects of the group would be peer support. Much information and shared experiences, about the side effects of the new drugs and coping with HIV, provided useful advise and entertaining listening. Some of the stories provoked howls of laughter and whilst not out of place in this closed group, those who told their tales might have been embarrassed to repeat them in any other circumstances. It was particularly good to see the newly diagnosed seeking and being given advice from the long term survivors. Why the question mark? Having decided to meet up on the first Tuesday of each month, only two people turned up for the second meeting. Maybe it was because it was Easter, maybe it was the weather. A finger buffet for 10 was prepared. The food was not wasted, however,only two of the people for whom it was intended had the benefit of enjoying it. For the next meeting it might be Dial a Pizza then catering numbers will be spot on. Attendance must not seem to be an obligation but there clearly needs to be enough people to make meetings worthwhile. Any suggestions?
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(A personal development group) I have been a member of various personal development groups over the past few years, and feel I know myself a little better - warts and all!! What I would like to ask you is, would you like to join a personal development group? I envisage the group meeting for eight weeks (2 hours at a time) either 2-4pm, 5-7pm or 7.30-9.30pm - at Staffordshire Buddies - the day of the week to be negotiated. I hope you will find the sessions fun and stimulating. Things I hope to include would be looking at stress, relaxation, assertiveness, and meditation to name but a few. Everyone would be welcome either service users, carers, buddies and health professionals. The group would be closed and people could not join the group part way through. If the group is a success I would like to run the course again and anyone would be welcome to attend a second set of sessions. If I have wetted your appetite please speak to me at Staffordshire Buddies on a Tuesday afternoon or phone 01782 744444 letting me know what time and days suit you. I look forward to hearing from you.
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I was asked to do this profile before I left Staffordshire Buddies for the heat of Phoenix, Arizona. I thought to myself, how am I going to fill a double page spread about little ole me? I sat down and said, Now come on Maz, be methodical about this and start from the beginning. I was born on a cold winters night weighing just 6lbs.. Dont stop reading I was only joking. Ill start a little later, from how I got involved with HIV/AIDS voluntary work and what makes me tick. The History I went over to Lisbon during my gap year (Jan 95) to learn the language and do Voluntary work for the homeless. However, the placement fell through so I spent my afternoons with a friend who happened to volunteer for Abraço (HIV/AIDS NGO). Two weeks into my 6 months in Lisbon, I started volunteering as a fundraiser for Abraço. They needed someone with good written and spoken English for the numerous applications to English speaking organisation and I needed to get out of the scorching afternoon sun. During my time with Abraço I helped with securing £5000 of funding, an extension into new premises and providing PR to the visiting funding organisations. I gained an enormous amount from working within such an enthusiastic team who kept on fighting in the face of a very moralistic/traditional society. I also sadly lost my dear friend Julio to an AIDS related illness. He had been brave enough to force politicians to address the issues around HIV/AIDS. I left Portugal for Staffordshire University (yes, I know Im mad) expecting to find liberated students who would be tolerant and aware of the facts about HIV/AIDS. How naive I was at the tender age of 19. I was faced with remarks like You can only get it from queers, I wouldnt touch him, hell give you AIDS. Why these people are given the privilege to attend university Ill never know. I took it upon myself to do something about this ignorance and prejudice. After all these people needed protecting from their own stupidity. Thus SHAG was born (Oct 95) by me cajoling my newly made friends into starting up a Students Union Society to reduce prejudice, provide information and resources and raise money for local HIV charities. I would like to thank those very first members of SHAG. SHAG would not be doing the work it is doing today without their initial dedication and hard work. It was at this point that I came into contact with Staffordshire Buddies. (SHAG continues to support Staffordshire Buddies being our biggest single donators to date.(Present (ish) As part of my International Business Management degree I had to take a third year working placement. I desperately wanted to work for a charity doing fundraising work but this was going to be difficult to arrange because of my limited experience and shortage of funds. The challenge was set. After a lot of calling around, twisting of arms at my LEA, speaking nicely to Andrew and proving myself to the Executive Committee, I finally secured my placement with Buddies as Fundraising and Events Officer! I would work 30hrs per week. This would give me time to earn extra money elsewhere to pay for my living costs, as my grant did not cover this. (Thus, you may have seen me curving around tables at Le Café de Tyn Tyn). There were so many people to meet, all of whom seemed to know my name and have heard of me (what for I still dont know ?!?). The staff made me feel very welcome and Sarah and I spent our first few weeks together, solving the worlds problems and ganging up on the boys in the office. (Keep it up Sarah). So what have I been doing since being in post? Ive created a Fundraising Guide, Updated the World AIDS Day Pack, Organised displays, Restructured the collection box system, Supported external groups in their fundraising efforts. Supported (cajoled) volunteers and clients with fundraising and events, Worked alongside Sexual Health Programme on the week of events for World AIDS Day, Sat on the WAD Steering Committee. Organised street collections, Updated various forms and publicity material, Attended training on fundraising. Kept volunteers amused with my mail-outs and Im still pestering people to just do this for me. The Future In addition to continuing the work above, I am working on a number of projects which include the Exotica Exhibition, Birmingham Pride, Reorganising all display material/resources and setting up folders to sustain the work and contacts Ive already made. Oh, I almost forget, Jane Haswell and I are doing a Parachute Jump (see the back page for the scary details). On the 29th May I leave Staffordshire Buddies to finish my degree (studying, yuck). But its not all bad news. I am travelling around America with my girlfriend Vicky for seven weeks ending up in Phoenix, Arizona. Vicky will return whilst I stay on to study for one semester at a University there. In January 1999, its back to Staffs Uni. for my final semester, to graduate. After that its anybodys guess. Any offers for work will be greatly appreciated! Volunteers be careful, I may come back to find you something to do! So dont stand still for too long. The Personal Stuff Ive gained so much from working for Staffordshire Buddies and Ive been looked after very well. Id like to thank all those whove helped me, be it through helping on a stall to calming me down during World AIDS Week (especially those who have made me laugh). It will be really strange not being with Staffordshire Buddies especially around WAD. It will be the first time in three years that I will not be involved with Stokes WAD activities. But Im sure there will be plenty of things for me to do in Phoenix. Please keep up the work Ive started and continue to support Buddies in whatever way you can. (Slushy bit coming) Ive found every minute a learning and rewarding experience and with self-motivation you can too. Bye-Bye, Ill miss ya! Maz |
I have been working as an HIV counsellor for the past four years. The number of health professionals working alongside me has increased but one thing that has not changed are people. Nobody reacts in exactly the same way as another when they get their HIV positive diagnosis or when they live with the diagnosis. I hope that I am able to help people at the times of crisis in their lives, providing a listening ear and an empathetic response. I dont feel I have any answers for somebody else's life, all I can do is to help them find their own answers. Im sure life is not meant to be lived alone, it is meant to be lived as part of the human race. Sharing our weaknesses and strengths with each other, sharing our qualities, our fears. Those of you who share your life with me, thank you, those who feel I could help them, please contact me - beware I am human! ![]() |
Michael Carey, the Community Services Co-ordinator, offers some thoughts on the question WORK? INTRODUCTION In recent months the issue of resuming some kind of work has risen to the top of the agenda for some of our people who are both HIV positive and undertaking a programme of (at least) triple combination therapy, and this interest reflects what is being experienced elsewhere in the country. This development has coincided with increased concern nationally about a range of benefits issues for those living with a disabling condition. The present government is carrying out the previous governments economy drive reviews of incapacity benefit and disability living allowance in order to reduce the total cost of these to the national purse, because they believe that the country cannot afford the increasing levels of expenditure in these areas, especially since some disabled people (the government believes) appear to be receiving these benefits when they no longer need them (i.e. the original qualifying condition has improved or cleared up). What is still unclear, is exactly who will be affected by these government/DSS reviews and their outcome. Will there be blanket reductions affecting everyone, as has been the case with payments to single mothers, or, will only new claimants be affected through a tightening of the criteria surrounding the award of these benefits, or, will benefits like DLA become means-tested (which it currently is not), or, is there some other possible change that could be made that we dont know about yet? What is abundantly not helpful in the present climate is the uncertainty that this process of review is creating for those whose standard of living is dependent on these benefits, causing a great deal of concern and distress to individuals who are imagining that they are going to lose their quality of life overnight, even before anything has actually been decided, let alone changed. As you can imagine such a narrow (albeit important) focus has drawn attention away from many other equally pressing issues that need to be explored and decided upon, in addition to benefits issues, by those people who are looking seriously at a return to work, whether part-time or full-time. The most important of these are signposted below in an attempt to widen the debate, so that people living with HIV are enabled to explore the whole picture for themselves rather than just one piece of it. The points are not exclusive, however, and readers are free to add their own or to dismiss as irrelevant those that dont apply to you. The article does not attempt to provide an answer to the big question of whether an individual should return to work; for one, that can only be decided by the person themselves, and then only after a great deal of thought and consultation with others, including ones HIV consultant. For two, no two people, given the same circumstances, will necessarily agree on the same conclusion, so such a path of answering for others, especially by someone who is not living with the situation 24 hours a day, 365 days of the year, is fraught with difficulties! SOME BARRIERS TO RETURNING TO WORK -
ACCOUNTING FOR TIME OUT POSSIBLE OPTIONS!
BENEFITS There are a large number of points that need to be made about the benefits implications for people considering returning to work after an enforced period of incapacity as a result of living with HIV and the associated illnesses. However, as a result of the latest budget, the information that is available to me is out of date and therefore not suitable for this edition of Positive Lives. Consequently, the next edition will include a follow up article on the benefits position for those thinking about returning to work once I have verified the latest position; in the meantime, should there be any particular questions around a benefits issue, I can find out the answer on an individual basis, but cannot yet provide the wider picture. However, I do want to say something about Therapeutic Work, as a number of people have asked about this, which is a legitimate way of pursuing a rewarded activity which is exempted by the DSS and therefore does not threaten your benefits as long as you play by the rules! Therapeutic work this is work which:
You cannot start working part-time, intending to claim it as therapeutic work, without getting the permission of the Benefits Agency Adjudication Officer. To do so would almost certainly lead to a loss of Incapacity Benefit once your new circumstances came to light and you would probably have to re-apply for this benefit all over again. It might even affect your other benefits. It is important to have your doctors support in seeking this work, but permission to start work under these circumstances does not lie with the doctor, but lies with the Adjudication Officer. You must write to that person care of your local benefits office requesting permission; it might save time if you include a letter from your G.P. supporting your application. There is no application form for this. The benefits perspective on returning to work! |

![]() All the comments about the last edition were very complementary:
These were but a few of the many nice things you said about the last edition but if we are to improve still further we need a bit more critical feed back.
If anything strikes you, give us a bell straight away whilst the idea is still fresh in your mind... or why not
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In the back room at the centre you can find copies of the Crusaid & Star Information Exchange Facts sheets which are issued to patients at the Kobler Centre in London when they are prescribed HIV drugs. There is a separate sheet for each drug as well as information on side effects such as Neuropathy and diet sheets appropriate to certain drugs. More sheets have been added from the ATIS Web Site. These facts sheets are the best available as they give the fullest information including details on how to take the drug, possible side effects and best methods of storage and where appropriate a diet sheet as well. Positive Discounts is an excellent scheme which now costs nothing to join and allows you to buy goods with a COUNT DOWN card which is virtually the same as any other Count Down card ie there is nothing on it which would identify you as positive to a shopkeeper. You get a book which lists the shops which give discount by regions, and there are a surprising number in our area. There are application forms in the filing cabinet. Although it is still a bit chaotic and there isnt a table you can sit at, the resources room is a useful place to find all kinds of information.There are Books, Pamphlets, Newsletters, NAM updates as well as sheets of information downloaded from the Internet. If you cant find what you are looking for, just ask, there is ususally someone around to point you in the right direction. There is also a list for requests to search the Internet on your behalf - you will find it pinned to the noticeboard behind the door. |
The evening of Friday March 27th saw the glitterati of Staffordshire Buddies join others at Le Café de Tyn Tyn (Broad Street, Hanley) for a delectable meal of many courses, lots of wine, and elegant conversation. Well, on tables other than my own;- Sarah, Neil and John providing a coarser variety and a lot of raucous laughter. I tried to keep Oscar Wildes flag flying but failed miserably. Our hosts were Ian and Barry, who kindly put on the event. Whilst Maz organised the finer details of the night, which included a mega-raffle to rival the Lottery. In all, £538.88 was raised for Staffordshire Buddies. Certainly a painless way of extracting cash. Hopefully another charity event will be organised so that I can hear what happened to Sarah on Stoke Station the following day. Watch this space. Thanks to Ian, Barry, Maz and all the staff at Tyn-Tyns for a lovely evening and friendly atmosphere.
Brian (Williams) The raffle was phenomenal for the Charity Night at Le Café de Tyn-Tyn. I would like to thank the following people/organisations for their generous donations and support.
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Shiatsu is one of the therapies of Oriental medicine - it has the same roots and works on similar principles as Acupuncture. It stimulates channels of energy in the body through pressure applied to certain points, thereby helping the vital organs to function more efficiently and redress any imbalance. It is rougher than massage but without the needle pains of acupuncture. Alan Norburn recenly underwebt a course of Shiatsu as one of three therapies to consider whether complementary therapies should play a part in treatment options. His article can be found in the April issue of POSITIVE NATION under the heading truly, deeply, badly, it gives a much fuller account than is possible here. The article ends: Only six weeks in and I am addictied. Now I cannot imagine a month going by without a Shiatsu session. Maybe Shiatsu could be made available at the new drop-in afternoon in addition to Massage, Reiki and Refexology.
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would like to wish Bob Good Luck as he takes over the editorship of this ( and hopefully more) editions of the newsletter.(see here -Ed) The idea of a rolling editor was suggested some time ago by Andrew - one of his better ideas - so anyone interested in training up for the next roll? Please get in touch. |
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(serves 10 slices) Ingredients
8oz Stoned dates roughly chopped 1 teaspoon bicarbonate of soda 1/2 pint semi-skimmed milk 10oz self-raising wholemeal flour 40z butter of unsaturated margarine 3oz chopped hazelnuts 2 ripe medium bananas 1 egg (beaten) 2 tablespoons of clear honey Method Grease and base line a 2lb loaf tin Put the dates,milk and bicarb into a saucepan and bring slowly to the boil whilst stirring. Remove from heat and leave to go cold Put the flour into a large bowl and rub in the butter or marg with your fingertips. Stir in the hazelnuts reserving 2 tablespoons for decoration. Peel and mash the bananas and add to the mixture along with the dates and egg. Beat well to mix. Spoon the mixture into the loaf tin and bake at 350F (Gas Mark 4) for 1-11/4 hours.Test by poking with a dry skewer - if the skewer comes out clean its done!) Leave to cool for 5 mins in the tin then turn onto a wire rack. Brush the top of the loaf with warmed honey and sprinkle with nuts (note: This cake contains no sugar because of the high proportion of natural sugar in dates)
![]() Ingredients: 3 oz Plain Wholemeal Flour 3oz Rolled (porridge) oats 30z Demerara sugar 4oz Butter or margarine 4oz Dried apricots (soaked overnight) 1. Lightly grease a shallow tray 2. mix together the flour, oats and sugar 3. blend in the butter or marge with your fingers until the mixture resembles breadcrumbs 4. spread half the mixture over the tray and press down evenly 5. Drain and chop the apricots and spread over the mixture 6. sprinkle the remaining crumb mixture and press down well. 7. Bake at 350f (Mark4) for about 25 minutes until golden brown. 8 . Leave in the tin for about 1 hour until cold and cut into bars and serve. These
will keep for 3-4 days if wrapped in foil and kept put in an air-tight container Thats all for this time, Ill be back next time with some more mouth watering recipes Good cooking.. |
Is your workplace about to upgrade its computers?? We are currently trying to help some of our members to gain computer skills by providing training packages at the Hanley Drop-in Centre. However, presently we only have one machine, which is heavily used for Internet Access and for producing the Newsletter. If you, or your organisation, are currently upgrading your computers and are discarding any out of date machines, we would greatly appreciate them. We are not asking for state of the art stuff, as many people simply want to learn basic keyboard/word processing skills, so old 386/486 machines would be more than adequate. Obviously we will arrange collection and acknowledge your generous donation in a future Positive Lives issue.
If you think you may have anything that we can use, Please call and ask for Maurice or Bob on (01782) 201251
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(Please Note: The editor of this edition was originally intended to be Bob Lishman, as is stated on the hard-copy version.
Peter Gee Maz Robert Till Maurice Greenham Michael Carey Jenny Read Brian Williams Bob Lishman Peter Butler
Views expressed in this newsletter are those of individual authors and not necessarily those of Body Positive Staffordshire nor Staffordshire Buddies . Copyright of the articles remains with the author and items may not be reproduced in any form or medium without their permission. Any mention of treatment or therapy does not constitute an endorsement by either of the aforementioned organisations. The mention, contribution or likeness of any person or organisation appearing in this publication is not to be taken as any indication of the sexual, social, political orientation nor of the HIV status of such persons or organisations. |
Staffordshire Buddies is a registered charity (No. 1047375) governed by a committee of trustees. This executive committee currently comprises 12 people, including the 2 service user representatives recently co-opted onto it. Charities are public bodies therefore anyone can attend committee meetings to observe the organisations business. Any service user, client, volunteer or member who wishes to sit in on meetings should contact the office for details. |
The purpose of the Newsletter is to offset-set the loneliness, isolation and anxiety often encountered by people living with the HIV/AIDS. There is, however, no restriction to being placed on our mailing list which currently extends to volunteers, health workers, hospital departments, doctors, dentists and others who interested in matters around HIV & AIDS.
We are a bi-monthly publication. Feedback on content, policy, format or whatever is encouraged and submission of articles and letters are always welcome from anyone regardless of their HIV status. |